to all the ex's who happen to want to tell lies to their former spouses..if I were you and my former spouse called your cell in order to talk to their 4 year old child(and in the past you have ALWAYS answered your cell)then even If I was not with my child at that time but I had lied and said I was....I would answer my cell and lie...because if you don't the high probability exists that your former spouse could walk into your place of business and ask why you're not at the beach and exactly who is with the 4 year old child at the beach..
HELL YES I would be pissed! Now, if Dan straight up said, "Hey, my parents want to take all the grandkids on a trip" or something to that effect, and I KNEW he wasn't going, I might still send them during my time because they love playing with their cousins. But if he lied and said he was going, and then didn't, I would be so mad.
Just two weeks ago when I had that relay for life thing my parents were going to keep them overnight while I did my part. Well, Dan asked if we could swap weekends so he could have them that weekend. The following week and weekend (HIS Weds-Sun) he was going to be in California for work.
So he said he wanted to have them A)So he could spend time with them and B)Because his sister's kids would be with his parents all weekend so the cousins could play
Well he said he wanted them Friday and Saturday nights. Come to find out MIL picked them up from daycare Friday, they spent the night with MIL/FIL and the cousins Friday night while Dan worked on his house. Then Saturday evening the kids all came to Relay with MIL/FIL. Dan was 'out getting a stove' apparently. They were at relay from 5:30-10:00, and Sydney was sure to fall asleep on the ride home. So even then I was pissed bc he said he wanted the time with them and he was nowhere to be found. Allegedly, he said he spent Saturday daytime with the kids but I think more likely he was at the farm where they were, but working on his cattle projects, not playing with them....
So yeah that part gets irritating.
No peep from Dan yesterday. He doesn't have the kids now until Sunday for Father's Day. It is my weekend but it's in the decree...so I am planning on him having them.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
If xh EVER, EVER leaves my kids with an ow (not sure if he has one right now or not) that will be the first and last time. Serious legal sh!t will rain down on him. I have a few things in the decree that I am flexible with now but that would stop so fast his head would spin.
We do have a right of first refusal. If he is going on a work trip, I keep the kids. However if he specifically asked if the kids could go with his parents overnight for something fun (movie, cousins over, etc) I would consider it. That is different than if he lied that he was around and passed the kids off to his parents.
