Better Days

[v1olin]

Now, my ex seems perfectly fine not calling or texting ME at all so that makes it easier.

[NoLongerHere]

OK.

So I've been telling XW that I need the password to the main account for our DSL (which include her email) so I can manage the DSL crap. She gave it to me last night and asked me to forward any email that might still come to it. So I logged on, changed the password, and yeah got to see all the messages from Chemestry.com and the odd lunch she set up with jacka$$ over time. All of which I knew about.

She called this morning, and said that wasn't going to work for her, that either I should give her access back or get rid of the address alltogether (which we can't because it's the main DSL account). I said we should talk about it later.

Then she asked if I could get off work early today and go with her and the boys to Six Flags. I said I could not get off work early, and I didn't think it was a good idea. Then she asked me why the attitude and called me an a$$hole.

I thought about texting her and saying, so which emails did you want me to forward exactly? The Chemestry matches? Or the ones about your lunch dates with your BF? It's your business what you do, but I'm not paying for your email account for you to do it.

Sounded nice to go with them today, but $&(@, where does it stop?

Really interesting that she seemed hurt that I didn't agree to go.

I cannot understand what she wants from me.

Anyway, I haven't texted her because I'm angry, but I think we're going to have that conversation soon.

[NoLongerHere]

Actually, maybe I will just start forwarding her email. Say nothing, just forward it.

[ImprovedRomeo]

G, we switched the accounts. DSL was in STBXW's name so she called and cancelled it. Then I called and got a new account. We never used that email address for anything since we have our own yahoo/gmail accounts we've been using for over a decade.

As for saying no, I think her reaction is to be expected since she's come to rely on your availability. However, you need to say no not in a rude way but just in a way that you have a busy life.

[NoLongerHere]

Just said I couldn't get off work and I didn't think it was a good idea.

[whatisis]

Then she asked if I could get off work early today and go with her and the boys to Six Flags. I said I could not get off work early, and I didn't think it was a good idea. Then she asked me why the attitude and called me an a$$hole.


Sounded nice to go with them today, but $&(@, where does it stop?

Really interesting that she seemed hurt that I didn't agree to go.

I cannot understand what she wants from me.

Anyway, I haven't texted her because I'm angry, but I think we're going to have that conversation soon.

Good for you Geronimo! It's amazing how they somehow think that we still owe them attention despite the fact that they dumped our asses! My wife wanted me to go to the cottage wih her and the girls this summer and I said "I think going to the cottage would be very hard for me." and she said "why, you've got holidays don't you?" Duh! I had to inform her that "emotionally" it would be very hard for me. They do need to know that times have changed and what the boundaries are. So welcome to the @sshole Club, we meet monthly btw. Can you host next months meeting on your thread?

[NoLongerHere]

I think the first order of business is to decide if it's a$$ or @ss. Or maybe @$$.

Oh, hey, my anger's back! Hello old friend.

I think the best bet right now is to just not talk to her. Cause I'm going to say things that are unneccessary to say.

[smith18]

It's now your DSL account. If she has a problem with some emails of her's still coming to that address, she needs to let those sites and people know of her new address. If she fails to do so, let her know that you are setting up a filter to delete emails as you do not want to see them (especially those from her BF).

[ImprovedRomeo]

G, go with @sshat.

So is the said @sshat still in the picture? or are these just old emails? And please don't read them...you will only make things harder on yourself and there will be NOTHING to gain.

[newmama]

Hi, Geronimo! Am catching up on your thread so I can follow along. The timing was right for me to read the first page today! I have one friend IRL who has been divorced and she initiated it. So it feels good to see the perspective of others who didn't want it and to be able to relate. IT SUCKS though!