Ok, I say this over and over again to everyone that it on here so I am such a broken record. So in case you haven't read my advice somewhere along the way- here it is. Get an instant social life through Meetup.com- mom's groups, women's groups, social events, etc. Shocks the hell out of the other spouse when suddenly you and the kids are out constantly or just you. It really stuns them and makes you happy to have your mind focused elsewhere for a few hours.
The other thing I always tell people- go to the library and get a ton of funny books on tape/CD, usually there are a lot of comedians you can check out. It is hard to let your mind run out of control when you are laughing your butt off. There were points were I would HAVE to have a tape playing to drive, otherwise I was too panicked to drive. It really, really works.....
Everyone is right- if he crosses the boundary you have to follow through on consequences. Life can go on without him as a hubby. People lament D but I think of it this way- why does D mean done? Is it 20% of people that remarry the same spouse after D? IDK, I am looking for something to back that stat up. D is not the end of the world, things change but sometimes for the better in the end.
IDK, if he continues his cheating ways it will just eat away at you and show a poor example for your children. You have to show the severe consequences- not just for him but for you, make sense?
Last edited by june72; 06/18/1003:39 PM.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
