Oh its not the talk that has me in panic mode..it is the fact the d is final for OW so now she could move him in if she wanted right??? maybe she could not before because D was not final..I dont know. I dont know how these things work. I have said all of the above to him but it does not stop him.
Your panic is most likely coming with the realization that you are completely out of control when it comes to what he will do and what OW will do. You will not feel any better until you accept that as a fact - they will absolutely do what they want to do and they will pay very little mind or heart to what it will do to you.
Now listen, woman - you cannot start spinning out of control here. You put down a boundary. If he crosses it, and I can tell you think he will, you know what to do. There is NOTHING ELSE TO DISCUSS! Stop trying to think of what you can say that will CHANGE anything. Talk will NOT. Only your actions going forward.
Sit tight.
The other thing you need to be doing is making yourself the BETTER choice. How attractive are you to H at this time? You're fretting, you're anxious. Are you taking care of yourself? When is the last time you dolled up and went out with girlfriends for a lunch or Big Girl Drinks? Get out of that house and discover the world. You know he is NOT the universe, right? And yet you are hanging every feeling, every thought, every action on what HE does. Time to change that. This is YOUR life, sister - and you need to control it - not him and not that OW.
Don't get back on here and respond by telling me all the reasons you can't get a life of your own! Expect a 2x4 from me if you do. You were NOT born to be HIS wife! You were born to be YOU. When are you going to start believing that? What about now? Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
