BBJ, if you've been changing the dynamic by paying him less attention lately then this may be his reaction, acting like the hurt little boy throwing a temper tantrum. People resist change!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Damn right I resist change, it quickly fills your pocket and makes your pants very heavy. I ask you, why do they even bother to make that silly little pocket for change in your wallet anyway? What does it hold a couple of dimes and a quarter and maybe an unfinished cigarette butt!Thanks for bringing this up Romeo, it's a topic that doesn't get the attention it deserves!
BBJ, you know what you have to do, now you just have to enforce your on boundary with yourself!!!
Dan wanted to be on his own, Dan wanted 50% custody, then Dan can be a 50% dad!!! That includes all their meds, their practices, their daycare, all of that during HIS time.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Hypothetical question.(keeping the kids age in your mind, I think you have a girl around 4-5?)..if Dan called you and said, hey..the kids have the opportunity to go to the beach this next week(your time) can I have them some extra time so they can go....and you said yes that was fine..and then you ask him if he was going with them...and he answered yes, after looking you square in the eye and smiling...then you found out after about 2 days that he did not go to the beach with them but sent them with a grandparent and some cousins...he stayed home and worked..
BBJ: OK, so (I am picking them up)(you are dropping them off) at x o'clock.
And that's the end of it. Don't ask if he arranged with the school, that's his issue, not yours. He's not going to figure it out until he was to do it.
It's hard... but you need to get to the point where you are not responsible for worrying about how and what he arranges for with the kids. The only exception being if you are concerned for their safety. Most importantly, stop offering to help him!
