Do I need to accept that it is over for good?

[AntoniaB]

My original thread is here: #2020196 - 06/13/10 12:40 PM Newbie: going to try Ghandi method

Not sure if that makes a link for you, sorry.

So since my husband is filing for divorce, and there is another woman involved, and I feel that I can't tolerate a full-fledged physical affair, do I need to accept that it is over for good? I guess I keep hoping he'll go to file the papers and not be able to go through with it, or that he'll file the papers and then be with her and just not be able to go through with it. I don't know. I think what's hanging me up here is that I love him so much despite everything and feel like the marriage is repairable but he doesn't agree, and I think he is confused and onlyfocusing on negatives now and in time will see things differently. I dreamed last night that he approached me to ask for another chance. I just can't let go. But should I after what has happened? Is that what is best for me?