I would keep the meeting - keep it emotion free (trust me i know how hard that will be) - be cool.

if she is wanting to work on your M then perhaps tell her the old stand by - I am not willing to be in an open M, and there MUST be NC with OM (you could detail NC if she inquires).

basically your #1 is step one.

no need to rush - and DO NOT let the emotions make you speak....think about what you are going to say before you say it.

it has taken over 3 months and i am just now seeing that my W is starting to realize how much pain and damage she inflicted by her actions....sadly patience is not one of my virtues and i have probably not been the "better" person all the time.

Gman

M-37 W-36
S-11, S-9, D-4
PA exposed 3/13/10
10/19/10 moving on...
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