In talking with friends/family, the conclusion many of them have drawn as to why he hasn't or won't leave is that he loves me and wants to work things out but doesn't know how to verbalize that or take action to do that.

Well, I can't wait the rest of my life for him to find a way or words to use to express what he wants, feels, thinks, needs, etc.

Yes - I love him. I would have been willing to work on things, if he was willing to work on things also. Otherwise, ready for it to be over. His words and actions have shown he isn't willing to work on anything and if that is incorrect, it was up to him to prove otherwise. I'm tired of all the BS.

In a recent discussion (I won't even say argument because I was completely calm and rational), I told him I just want to get past this one way or another. All of his answers were "i don't know" and he asked why I keep going back to the same questions - asking what he wants, thinks, feels. I told him that those are the basics of communication - talking about what you want, think and feel about any given person or situation. He tried to say that he didn't know the answers to any of those questions in relation to our relationship - and he wanted to move on from there. But I told him - move on in what way? Together (how? cause things certainly cannot be how they were, because even he admitted that it was "not a very good" relationship) or apart (when moving out?)
No answers, no solution.

I'm just tired.

If no action/solutions, eviction filing Monday

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.