Well I've always thought you were sensitive and empathetic. People need to face their fears.
As for the dead horse, it's not the thread or topic. Those are good. In the first post I wrote on this thread I talked about Standing and the dangers.
For me the dead horse is the continual question about naming DBers who have reconciled marriages.
As for you addressing this topic to the stuck deniars, yes I think we have seen that there are some and perhaps a lot. What makes me shriek is when you use absolute modifers and blanket generalizations to imply that any Stander after a certain period of time is stuck in denial and/or not growing.
It is true of some and not true of others...in the same way that it is true that some MLCers return and some do not.
Tough the it is a priority and thus primary goal to help LBSs grow and choose personal joy, realizing they are responsible for their own life and success. But for me it is also a goal to hel Standers reconcile their marriage, thereby someday improving those statistics you talk about.
Think of it this way: Suppose that the success rate of in vitro fertilization in the past 5 years was 40% (made up number) But over only the past year it was 70%.
