How to tell the kids

[dday101798]

I don't have time to go through in detail what everybody has said, but 'future' has hit alot of my points:

Abosuletly no friggen way in hell do you move out. She wants a D? She wants to be involved with someone else? Give her the reality check I did to my STBW: "Get the eff out my house". This also gives you the leg up on custody should D become unavoidable, courts want the least distruption in the kids lives, thus whom ever has the marital (family) residence is a step ahead. Also, when her L asks "why did he kick you out of the house?", heh, what do think she's gonna come up with? Lawyers dont work well when their clients are lying (ironc when half the crap they sling around in court IS lies).

I tell you, that was a POWERFUL move on my part. The extreme slap in the face to her was te fact the hosue was in HER DAD's name, yet I had his backing to kick her to the curb. Food for thought.

More food for thought: If OM's wife is an aldultress herself, I'd cut communication with her out now! Especially face to face meetings. I could see that blowing up in your face really quick.

Furthermore, I also took the stance as 'future', each and everytime when STBW said "I want to be friends with you and maybe, just maybe we can grow back together", my answer was absolutley NOT, I REFUSE to be "friends" with my wife who lives with another man! NO WAY!

You have some tough times on your plate if she is currently determined as she says she is that "this is it" and you throw this in her face.

But guess what? That's growing your balls back buddy. And men who have balls to stand up against their aldutress wives earn RESPECT. And respect is what you lost from her and why she is doing this.

EDIT - And also, it might jsut make her think really hard really fast right now what she really wants to do.