For whatever reason I am being given an insight into how his 'relationship' with OW is showing cracks.
You can't participate in it's demise. Step back, remain silent and let this crazy ass methodical crackhead show her true colors.
He will grow tired of her sh!t.
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I was allowed to see his anger over the letter she sent me. His confusion is so evident as is his depression as he trys to get some understanding about what is going on.
He isn't thinking or understanding like you and I. He will have to experience this, or live and hopefully learn and it takes them a lot more time to grasp what seems so simple to you and I. You must remain patient.
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He still blames me for the 'bad' marriage
That's what they do. It's awfully difficult even for a person without so many issues to take a look at themselves for real and decide they need to change.
He's looking for anything. Any reason at all to shift blame, nevermind if it's a bullsh!t one, he believes it. Yes it's twisted but it's how their minds work.
As long as you keep telling him things he is not ready to hear, and as long as you remain caught up in the OW drama you will have the blame target on your back.
It's whacked, but it's the world he's living in at the moment.
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When he asked me what I wanted and I said 'to be married to you' he didn't react negatively and denied ever wanting a divorce.
"I want you to be happy H." delivered in a kind, loving and confident way.
