He said that he wanted the kids to know that he wasn't miserable. He wanted me to know that he is taking steps to be independent. He did not want to be accountable to me.... I asked how it was possible for me to believe we had incredible intimacy and he not believe it. He just said it was never there and now he is being honest..... Who does these things - who changes their complete dynamic and turn into this kind of selfish, narcissistic monster? How do they convince themselves that they've never been happy or that everything about 28 years has been a lie????
Irish,
All of this, IMO, is script. It is all a version of stuff that we have all heard.
Who does this, you ask?
Someone who is in MLC. Someone who is in great pain.
The real truth, which you will see as time passes, is that all of the years, was not a lie. While none of us were perfect, I don't believe there is a case that I have read that the whole thing was miserable.
Mach is right. You get through this in very small doses. One minute at a time, then one hour at a time, and then one day at a time.
So what are your plans for the weekend?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
