Thank you, everyone. I didn't get a chance to see Sandi's post before I left today. I decided I had to risk talking to my associate where they work to see if it would tip the balance. It did. And I'm so glad I listened to my gut on this one. Firstly, my friend didn't even know we had a problem. She seems normal at work. I started by asking him to verify that my second possible OM (a mechanic that is very nice and they talk all the time. She's quite open about her chats with him.) Friend says not a chance. This guy is so happily married it makes my friend jealous. When I mentioned the flower guy-where my fear was leading me- he actually laughed out loud! He said this guy is always out to prove how well he is doing in sales that he is always doing these kinds of things for female staff. And from what my friend has seen, the cards or notes are a little "off" so he can understand why W wouldn't bring it home. He actually commented that he would be more likely to believe that it would snow tomorrow than W and this guy would hook up. His remark was something like "he wouldn't have the courage to aim that high up the food chain". Wow, did I feel better. Granted, that doesn't solve the sex supplies but by disproving these possible OM, I'm again without any evidence. And the day got better. She texted about 4 to say she was running into town after work. I was going over the last few posts here and commented back to her "OK, You're text was a little terse. You ok?" Seconds later she phoned (a recent increase over text) to apologize if I got that feeling (my expression is 'I don't like the tone of your font') Her texting interrupted by a customer and finished quickly. She then went on to thrill me with one of her patented comedic descriptions of the situation. We laughed like idiots again Just like last night. I said I had to go but seized the pleasant call to ask that she tell me when I can expect her home. "I want to have an awareness of your agenda so I can plan accordingly. I'm not concerned with where or who. Just when you are leaving and when you're planing to be home. And if you'll miss the time, just let me know as soon as you can" She said sure and right on time texted me to say she would be home at 9:30. Then called again to say 15 late as she had to stop for gas. To top it off, I was laying in her bed with D when she came home. She laid down with us, as close to me as she's been in months. Then I saw it. I bought her a ring (two silvers held together by a little gold one ala we three) two months ago as a momento of her emergency ovarian surgery (she lost the right side tube). She originally didn't give much acknowledgement to it and said it didn't fit and put it on her necklace. Barely said thank you. And there it was on her right ring finger. It wasn't her wedding ring or her left ring finger, but it was in plain site. I feel really good. The plan? Though I am still a little concerned about the "birthday weekend", I'm less afraid of PA and am more confident that she is noticing my changes and possibly coming around. I'm going to let her lead. She laughs, I laugh. She touches, I touch. See how it goes. But I will not get too close until she recommits to the R. And that means we'll have to talk about it. On her start. I'm actually considering trying to accelerate the timeframe by proposing that, for the sake of D and her access to us, perhaps "we" should limit our week nights away from the house to maybe 2 max and reserve Sunday for equal access to both of us. Whether it's grocery shopping or hanging out in the yard with her. Just give her one entire day.
Any thoughts or comments? I don't want to get overly enthusiastic and "hope blind".
Incidentally,any opinions on whether the removal of an ovary could be affecting her emotions and/or character?
