When B.Eyes says, I never want to be married to him, then I'd change my tune.
My understanding (if I got you right B.E.) is that she wants him better, fixed, and clean. If he stays as is, she wants to move on. That is her decision to make, not mine to advise.
So I'd suggest looking for opportunities to her, not to have him return, but to get help and then return. Her answer makes her POV clear. She CAN speak for herself. She also did.
