oh and I forgot- earlier tonight when I exchanged S in the parking lot, I wasn't in the mood to be all talkative. I was polite. But I told WH I had the paperwork ready for the custody class and gave it to him. He said "Oh yeah..I haven't really looked at the classes! I gotta get to that!" like it was signing up for a college class or something. I was so annoyed.
So then I was realizing that the parking lot where we exchange S is actually inconvenient for me to exit. So I texted WH and asked him if we could change the lot to a different place.
He said "sure! after next week I can pick him up at the house!!"
So this pissed me off because he was saying this since he's moving closer. I texted him "try not to sound sooooo happy about this please."
He replied "sorry. I am just looking forward to spending less time in traffic." grrrrr! whose fault is that?????
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Been thinking lots about you newmama. You tried to be the 'better option', and although you excelled at improving yourself and acting with grace, it didn't turn your WH around (alhough I bet it made him think twice on more than one occasion!!!). Whereas I have been inconsistant, sometimes a raving lunatic, and that hasn't turned my WH around either.
I guess the moral of that story being that when there is an OW there is just so little we can do.
But - and this is a big but- the way YOU behaved kept the door open for your WH should he have emerged from his 'fog'. Mine, were he to ever emerge from his fog, would have taken one look at me and run for the hills!!
You can be SURE you did everything possible under the sun to save your M.
And it's still not over until you decide it is. D papers or not.
Good things await you, NM, whether it involves your WH or not. xoxo
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
