still separated, headed for D?

[flowmom]

(((newmama)))

Of course you're still in shock. I don't think there's any way to fully prepare for the "bomblets" even when we know they are coming and prepare for them as much as possible. Give yourself some time to grieve this latest milestone in the process. That doesn't mean put your life on hold, but make some space for yourself to feel. This is yet another sucky point on the giant suckitude of being abandoned by the one who you love and have pledged a commitment to.

I love the idea of reconciliation as much as anyone , but in your case I really think that you will do better than your WH. Yes it truly, truly sucks. But you are free to start fresh and build a real family life for you and your S...a family life that your WH never provided you with. A man who is weak-willed enough to allow a woman to bully him into divorcing his wife and the mother of his children doesn't deserve a woman like you.

I'm on and off the boards, but feel free to ping me in the alt if you want to get in touch with me.