You're more than welcome sweetie, glad I could help a little.:)
Punkin, the best answer I've got is that you'll know when the time is right to no longer be dark. Being dark is for you. It's a time to collect your thoughts, get centered and when you're ready you'll be able to talk to your H from a position of strength, but more importantly you'll be ready to listen and validate.
what does your gut tell you to do? I have found my intuition to be much sharper through this. Always maintain the 24 - 48 hr rule in waiting to respond to your H. This gives you time and perspective on your answer because although we can't speed the MLC process up, we can certainly slow it down.
I know this does not really answer your question, but you will find that the answer is in you already. It will present it self when you are ready to hear it. Be still and listen for it.
