Hi Punkin I know how hard it was in the beginning when my h left. Just try to focus on you and try not to be alone and think, and pray a lot if you have faith. I watched religious programs all day in the beginning God is the only way I got through it. There is a really good website rejoice marriage ministries. I read the messages of the marriages restored over and over and it gives me a lot of hope. I also ordered the tapes from there and listen in my car all the time. It does get better with time. I know when I just started going through this i couldn't eat or sleep. m for 20 ys together for 30. I like your name, that is my labrador's name and I spell it the same too.