The beauty of all life's paths....We know where we came from, though we never know where we are going to end up.
Change your path and live for DBS again....maybe your path will meet up with your wife again or maybe not...either way it is time to choose your own path.
And yes...I was helping my wife look for apartments, etc.....I was ready to move on. That is the underlying theme of DB'ing....YOU are ready to move on without hate or resentment. Acceptance that path A is no longer valid and it is time for plan X.
