He's Loving the Freedom of the 180 - Now What?

[addie]

I told him that I had little patience for the drama and felt that it was one of the reasons WH was initially attracted to me, because I'm self-sufficient and not high-maintenance. Heck, I even drove myself to the hospital with our first born!

To which Larry responded, "It WAS one of the reasons he was attracted to you - because with you making good money and taking care of everything at home, it meant he got meals/laundry/sex with very little effort so he could focus on his primary concern: himself.

"You placed no demands or boundaries on him, which is why he worked 80 hrs a week without accounting for himself. He resents the kids and has no use for a clingy, demanding woman - which is what you became after you discovered the affair.

Wow!!! All this really resonates with me. You see, I am very self-sufficient (I'm the one working and supporting the family and have done so for most of our M) and low maintenance. I also drove myself to the hospital for the birth of our S and H almost missed the birth.
Like yours, my H is a workaholic eventhough he's not financially successful. He's always been self-centered and very selfish.
Just a few more similarities I noticed.