Seeing Red, g'day! 1. I know his father's parents stayed married..before that, not sure. WH's maternal grandfather had a 20 year affair (spent half the week with his mistress at her house). 2. Yes 3. Mostly agree. Some of it is true, but most is crap. 4. This is my main focus. I realise WH is probably never coming back. 5. I think most of them think WH has done a bad thing or had a nervous breakdown of some sort because they know his family history. I'm getting tired of updating them on the Alien's latest moves. Seems like I am doing all the work. 6. Why do we have to vent her and not to the person who has done the dirty deeds, esp if we are not sure we want them back? Remind me again !!!
Cannot believe your WH's family legacy.. that's nuts! I like your idea of reprogramming the pattern for your son. I need to repattern things for my daughter - my mother was left by my father who had a 4 year affair, and now I have been left by my WH in similar circumstances. I am going to teach her to chose a stable man with good values if she want's a good family life!
About BIL and MIL. BIL does not want MIL under same roof. They also have a strained realtionship. So my idea of everybody living together is looking like it's not going to work...
