He's Loving the Freedom of the 180 - Now What?

[addie]

Hi Red,

I've been reading your thread and can't believe how similar our sitches are (although H and I have reconciled). My H who works in the University system had a PA with his assistant - a grad student who was 20 years younger than him. The PA lasted about 3 months after OW dumped H as soon as she got a good reference from him. She moved right along onto other unsuspecting victims - H was devastated and continued to pursue her for about a year after the PA ended.
As in your case, at one point OW told H she would charge me with harrassment when, at the beginning of our sitch, I tried contacting her a few times to try to talk some sense into her - foolish move on my part but it quickly confirmed to me just what type of person she really was. Of course H took her side. She told H she was afraid I knew where she lived and I would try something. I thought of exposing their A at H's work but didn't have the guts to do it. Much later on H told me he wished I had exposed before he had gotten so involved with her. Interesting! During all this time H was hanging out with 20 year olds. Although we are now living in another city far away from OW, H is still in the university system and continues to have a social circle of 20 something year olds. We are now living together but have a lot of work to do to get our M on track.

These are some of the similarities I noticed as I was reading. I will continue to check in from time to time to see how you're doing.