Sounding really good Gatsby!
He is obviously nervous about all the "dad" stuff and parenting duties. I was kinda nervous myself changing a nappy - had never done it before either..well, not in a billion years. Of course, it's really not hard at all!
I think keep spending time together, and try to put aside for now what he has done to you. If you end up wanting to reconcile, you are going to have to deal with what he did and put is aside anyway...
Good for saying you are not "okay" with anything. Now maybe don't say it again for a while but keep letting him know about what you are happy with and what you are not.
Validate him as the father when you can.
By the way, what does he think about you not giving the baby his surname??

HUGS!! This IS looking positive.

You and Babydoll have much better sitch's than me and Newmama where there is OW woman involved.


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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