BBJ, take care of yourself. If this continues another day go see a doc. I too had a couple of days feeling like that. Mine was due to a cold and feeling stressed out during the early part of the latest mess. My middle ear was not happy which maintains our equilibrium. When a cold or something affects the middle ear you'll feel dizzy and have motion sickness like symptoms. Bonnie helps.
Again go see a doc if it happens again. You shouldn't be driving in this condition.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
BBJ, you probabaly over did it. I know a few other people with Bronchitis too and it seems to keep coming back for weeks! If you've been running on empty anyway (and you have been!) then the dizziness etc would fit right in. You're exhausted! Believe me, I'm the King of overdoing it when sick, people are always telling me to stay home at night but do I listen...nope. I'm scared to let my life grind to a halt, in case I can't start it up again! But, I do agree with the others who are telling you to go see the doctor again and just get checked out. Sometimes, taking vitamins like Vitamin C, B complex etc can be energizing. I'm still still fighting it too, BBJ. I had flu symptoms for two weeks and then Bronchitis and I'm on my third week with that. Sometimes I feel fine and the next day I'm hacking and fatigued all over again. So hang in there and take care of yourself. You start to question your own sanity when you're down physically for long periods. It's hard to deal with Dan and the rest of life when you're feeling this way, I know! Btw, your immune system is probably cooked and you may need something to help boost it back up. I'm taking something called ST. Francis Deep Immune, my Naturopath put me on it. You can get it in health food stores that carry naturopathic remedies. I hope it's available in the States. Anyway, just a thought.
Thanks guys, so far feeling better today, but it didn't show up yesterday until 4ish, so I will see what happens! Already 85 on our way to 94 today. Kids will be playing in the sprinkler while I am in class, thanks to a great babysitter.
OK time for class to start. Going to try and to some of the work I didn't do last night while the prof is talking...
Oh and not that it matters but becoming pretty certain Dan is definitely narcissist. Some logical consequences/repercussions came up last night and he was quite put out about it. Oh well, he can figure it out!
I know Mish but I am in class and not supposed to be on here...
For starters, as they left the ball game with them last night for his overnight, I said, when will I see the kids then?
He says, "I suppose after school tomorrow."
(Keep in mind the previous posts here where I had sent multiple texts and emails over the last MONTH asking him what he planned to do with the kids during the day when he was at work. BC during the year he dropped them at daycare, they went to school, back to daycare, and then he picked them up. With no school he could do all day at daycare, or I offered to watch them, or he could ask his parents. He NEVER acknowledged any of my messages, so I gave him the calendar for custody and calendar for daycare on Monday and still, nothing.)
So I replied, "Oh, ok, so then you told school (daycare) they were coming?"
And you can predict his answer to that one...more to follow...
Me: Oh, so you told "School Name" that they would be there, then? (BC I only signed them up for times I was taking them.)
D: (more annoyed than before) No. I didn't.
Me: You can drop them at my house on the way to work.
D: I don't know. If school doesn't know they are coming then I can just ask my dad to watch them. Or just forget it, I will just have to take the day off.
Me: I don't care what you do I just said I would take them if you wanted me to.
D: Fine I'll do that.
Me: This is why I asked you a month ago (Dan continues walking away--btw we were standing by an overturned port-a-potty at the time at the ball field and it did stink!!)...oh are you leaving?
D: I don't want to stand here and talk this thing stinks...
Me: Ok then.
I walked back to my car and shot him a text: I don't care if they come to my house or your dad's or if you call and tell School in the morning that they are coming. I sent you a text monday asking what the plan was for kids during the day on your days, and had already sent a couple emails to that effect. I don't care one way or another but I am not a mind reader.
Sheesh! I know I didn't even need to do that! In hindsight should have said nothing at all except goodbye and goodnight to the kids. He would have found out when he took the kids to school that they weren't on the day's roster.
[Our daycare is kind of odd to me in that every single week, you are to highlight which days the kids will be there, am and/or pm, and also which meals they will be having, breakfast, lunch, or both. Every week, year-round. So I mark when I am going to have them there, and during the year I marked the times I knew Dan would take them there as well. For summer I did not do that bc it would bump us up from half-time to full-time prices]
It gets better. This is how I know how self-serving, self-centered he is. And how he is a hypocrite. Or as they say, narcissists contradict themselves...
I sent nothing else and went about my business...ran up to Target.
Got back in the car from Target and had a message from Dan from 15 minutes earlier:
"I need a singulair please."
A. Singulair is one of Nathan's 4 allergy meds he takes every night before bed.
B. One of his core issues with me when he was having the A and living with me was that I would let Nathan's rx's run out and forget to refill them so he would go a day or two without meds before I got it filled. That, and he hated that I would forget to bring tissues to church. Umm...after b!tching about it week after week, why didn't HE bring tissues?!
C.Not two hours before, he was stalking away from me annoyed. Now he needs something and he is asking me to do something for him. Actually is was barely a question, with the please at the end. He just figured I was home waiting for him to need something from me.
So, I replied 20 minutes after he had texted. Just said "I am not at home if you need one you can get in the house I left it unlocked"
**we rushed out of the house and I didn't bother to lock it, one of the nice things about small town living! I know I shouldn't just allow access to my house but it was Nathan's prescription meds, not like he wanted something he could go get at the store.
I got home and an hour later he texted several short texts
--did not make it over
--had all the other meds (he takes 4 a day)
--he will have to get it in the morning
--i have to get a new prescription
--i have no refills
So ironic bc just last month in one of his nasty grams one of his rants was "I do not understand why Nathan did not take his meds last night"...apparently Nathan told him he hadn't taken them, I am sure Dan had asked him cause what kid volunteers that info? If I had decided not to give Nathan his meds all hell would have broken loose.
Anyway I did not reply. I am the one who first went to the allergist and told them back in Feb. that kids were now living with their dad part time. I am the one who got him the first set of duplicate prescriptions. Not this time. He will actually have to remember the name of the allergy doctor, call the office, and ASK for a new prescription. It is long past time...
Oh and next Monday night is HIS night on our rotating schedule. He gets them every wednesday, alternate mondays, and alternate weekends.
So the coach said something about "See you guys at our next game Monday!" And I hear Dan say, "Oh I may have something for work monday night but I will be there Wednesday." I am NOT going to ask him about it guess he better ask his parents to watch the kids!!
I know, Kat. It was my rescuer instinct popping up. I swear it is just ingrained!! I tried to backpedal by saying "I don't care what you do" but I had already offered.
That is why I did not answer any of the texts last night. I am not going to offer to get his duplicate prescriptions refilled. In the past I would have. And I am not going to offer to watch the kids Monday night. As far as he knows I already have plans. Which I DO--plans to work on my class work!
Absolutely agree with Kat. He is so used to being spoon-fed it's pathetic and the hypocrisy of calling you out for things that he has no idea how to take care of himself is ridiculous!
Remember, HE is the one who had himself some fun on the side and wanted this divorce because he couldn't commit to you, HE is the one who wanted to live separate lives - so now he can figure out this stuff on his own. Time he stopped having a mommy do everything for him.
