She is the one who wants out and I beleive that should be CLEAR to your children. If it comes to that with me, I am going to say that I have made my fare share of mistakes but wanted to stay togethor. It is HER decsion to break up your family, not yours. As far as I am concerned, If I get divorced, in my mind it will be as though she never existed
I was at that place too for a while. Still not sure about dividing up pictures. I feel like I won't want ANY of her or of our wedding. Only the kids. Will just want to forget about her. She will be dead to me. But I don't actually know if I can bring myself to that place.
Funny thing is that we still get along so good. We never fought before and still don't. Since telling me in January that she hasn't been happy we have gone to a number of concerts, sporting events with the kids, visited relatives, talked, etc. and always seem to have a good time. She smiles, laughs, jokes and sometimes even gives me nice looks, but she has always been so cold about her lack of feelings for me. Then she files for divorce without telling me and just keeps pushing through. She told our neighbor that I think it is a MLC, but she knows it isn't. She has "thought through every scenario" (without talking to me about it) and she "KNOWS with ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY that this is what she HAS to do."
I don't understand how we can have such good times and yet she still feels this way about our marriage? I am at a loss.
