My H just came by my office for supposably for company business reasons, I am sure it is nothing that couldn't have been handled over the phone. When he was here, he asked if we could talk...of course he starts out with small talk about the kids and then starts in on how he thinks I look look pretty and I smell good. He asked if we could just go out to dinner sometime as friends. Says he can't imagine his life without me...blah, blah, blah. I told him I have heard it all before and nothing changes...and for the time being, I am still his wife and I don't want to be his friend. He said he needs to figure himself out and something about having 6 months before the D is final. He talked about how he is still depressed and just doesn't feel like doing anything. When he left he apologized for making me crazy with all this stuff.
I just can't understand why he can't get past this stuff one way or the other. He is like a dog chasing his own tail. He did mention that he was angry about rushing the D through. Funny because it is all signed, notarized and ready to go but he still has yet to file it.
Since my H can't really deal with any of this stuff, I think I am on the right track here by moving forward without him. It gives him the opportunity to see what life is like without me and that he will lose me forever if something doesn't change.
peace-I didn't think you were harsh. I always appreicate you thoughts and input. My H's indecision has certainly prolonged the situation...in some ways, making it more difficult but in others it has helped me to figure out that the majority of the issues that my H and I have are his alone. At least I don't have small children or an OW (this time) to deal with...that wasn't fun either. My heart goes out to you and everyone else who is dealing with that.
