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[Ready2Change]

Here's a story I learned here to help me understand my wife better:

You are having a big BBQ at your house on Saturday and you are busy on the grill and your wife is in the kitchen. All the guys come out and stand around you and drink a beer while you do all the grilling. In the kitchen your wife is making a salad while all the other women jump in and finish putting out the rest of the food, filling glasses, and making sure the table is ready. What are the conversations like at the grill vs in the kitchen?

If another man came up to you while you were grilling and started to help how would that go over? If the other women just watched your wife what would she say? It's a insult to a man to help another man without being invited, it's insulting to a woman not to help because there is work to be done. Ever get a dirty look while you are watching a game and your wife is cleaning?

Intuitively the men and women know how to act around each other, it's when our spouse needs help in a way that is best for them we struggle. Women want your support, listen to them and don't try to fix things for them. Men want to be in charge, fix problems, get things done and say as little as possible.

You have to be aware of what she really is telling you. Treating and speaking to your wife like she is a man is counterproductive. Do what works. Be a cat whisperer.