Mine is in crisis but won't admit it, and the OW stuff is just killing me. Unfortunately they are only going to have 7 days together, so I bet it will be romance all the way!
yes, I think he is in crisis too. But detaching tells us that we can not worry about them and their mistake. It is something they need to go through. The OW is just his crutch, but will never bring him true happiness or fulfill his void or make this all ok!
About the 7 days of romance... can you imagine what it's like to be OW? It sucks to be her (and rightfully so) but she is probably walking on eggshells wondering how he really feels about you and your bub... if he will ever leave her like he did you... if he ever wants to come back to you... i cant imagine she is floating on cloud 9 and that everything is wonderful between them. Including that for your H. Think he can possible be happy? truly happy?? NO WAY!!!!!! He left his W, and his daughter!!! I do not believe for one second that the pain does not affect and will continue to affect every relationship in his life, and every one of his days!
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After a string of angry and hurt emails to WH, I sent one this morning that aplogises for saying hateful things, that I love him but understand he needs to be gone now and that one day i will be open to peaceful coparenting. I wanted to have my last email to him to be like a 'release' letter.
It is normal for you to go thruogh the cycles of building anger and releasing! Its quite healthy... and helps you get to the next step. And the nice email will make him think and realize what he left behind!
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Now I need to go dim and stay as distanced as possible, as you say.
Pls help me guys keep up the minimal contact with WH. I am probably going to have to do a lot of ranting on here to survive this period.
THAT'S WHAT WE ARE HERE FOR!!! Will not let you go through this alone!!! I will always listen (read) and try my best to help you through...
