i want to say yes. but it could be an act. as soon as the d-bomb was dropped, the mean-ness came out.
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You were your H's #1 priority up til now?
i was until after the first year of marriage. that's when his mom laid it on thick with the "your father is living on borrowed time. he could die any day of a heart attack. he doesn't eat healthy. he doesn't exercise. he's just going to bite the big one soon. he may never see another father's day. or another christmas."
and i guess he saw it as .. well, who's dying first? father or my wife? i'll tend to the person who's got the shortest time span on this earth and make that person #1 priority. the wife will always be around. she can take care of everything else .. i'll focus on my father and everything will be fine.
that's how it has been. i lived it. i watched it. i didn't stop it. i can't make someone love me. he has to want to love me. i put my foot down a few times. it came back to bite me. interpreted as me hating his family.
i don't know. when your father loses $10k of your hard earned money on bad stock tips. and then feels guilty and takes a $25k loan out to try and make the money back. and ends up losing that too. and then has the balls to ask you to pay for the interest on the loan that your FATHER took out. who's the f*ked up one? is it really me? you still love him despite that?
btw, you are also down another $40k on another bad stock that he purchased with your money. you want me to continue? if money is so important to you, go ask him to pay for the losses.
i never asked you for a single penny.
your family uses money to exert control over you. your finances are so f*ked up for someone with a finance degree. and you can't tell the difference between who is or isn't money hungry. so you accuse me?! prove it.
you know your mother exaggerates things. the words came out of your mouth. yet, you couldn't put that to the things she has said about our m.
she's not looking out for your best interest. she's looking out for her own best interest. she drove away your father's friends. she is slowly driving away your friends. she drove away your w. all for what? so she could control the family unit again? your father is clinging to you because she drove away his friends. it isn't a loving relationship. it's toxic.
i love my family and i know my family loves me. it's unconditional. it's unspoken. but more importantly. we all know it without having to speak or hug one another (not to say we don't). we simply know where we stand with each other. we don't need constant validation ...
i cannot continue this conversation. otherwise i will break down.
i'm sorry greek. i tend to write as if i'm talking to my h.
