He is a WAH who is running home to his mother. Talk about enmeshed!
hence the name d4mil. my h chose his mother. telling me that the bond he had with his parents was special due to the health problems that his father suffered years ago.
i understand that their relationship is an enmeshment problem. i'm saddened by it. it's hard for me to undo all of this love i have for him. had i know this was what his family was like, i wouldn't have loved him the way i did.
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I can see that you love this man, your H. And you desperately want him back. But please think it through and add this into the thought process. This man is unavailable and you know who has him. Do you really want to sign up for that? And do you really want a man who would ASK THAT OF YOU?
in my heart, all i can feel is hurt. why did you not choose me? i never made him choose. i was hoping that by giving all 5 LL, it would show him how much i loved him and how i was the better choice. never in a million years, did i think i would be dumped for his mother.
i have a lot of qualities that he looks for in a woman. but it's not enough.
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I hope I'm not undoing any of the Good Work Coach and FG have been doing here with you. But I do think you need to take a hard look at this.
i lived with it for 3.5 years. i think for most of the time, it was okay. we never celebrated our anniversary together - just h and i. it was always with his parents.
i often think i'm fooling myself for believing that this can be db-ed. he will never come around and see that the best "potential for happiness is with the person with whom you are married to now" (quote from Gary Chapman).
i'm still trying because i love my h. despite the daggers, the hurt, the pettiness, the name calling, the hurtful accusations .. he is still my h and i believe that there is potential for happiness with him. that is what keeps me going.
