I'm sorry to hear about your latest twist, but there may be a silver lining...
While you are angry and conflicted about whether you want your W, she is feeling the potential loss of you while you are the WAW. Since people want what they can't have, this may give her an opportunity to realize how much she really wants to be with you.
Don't rush into any R talks for a while while you cool off and figure out what you want to do next.
