Believe me I'm not the authority here - and its just my opinion - but - there's no point in trying to figure her out. With my W - I am giving her the space and time to let her come to me when the time is right to talk about us. I haven't talked about "us", and I will watch her move out of state away from me in just a few days - not an easy event for me. All the advice I've gotten from this forum and from support groups tell me to get on with my life, work on bettering myself, work on relationship with kids, give spouse the time to see life without me, and somewhere there will be a resolution to our relationship - whether its together or not is unknown, but either way - I'll be bettered prepared for that next phase of life. So - my advice - yes - it hurts and sucks - but - continue to work on YOU, and give the relationship a timeout. To me - if its mixed messages you're getting, then W doesn't know what she wants yet. Think about this - if YOU know you want something - you will decide to do whatever it takes to get it. When SHE knows what she wants - you in all likelihood will know it - one way or another. Gotta give it some time - I don't know how long. I am 9 months down my road with no resolution in sight, but I know I need patience and strength - and as I've said I've accepted that challenge. Don't know if I can make it without going insane either - but - one day a time!!!!! Just hang in there and give things a rest. Hang tough.......
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
