I just wanted to jump in here and I don’t know give you some words of help, (I hope) My H had a ow, whom he worked with, and still worked with, we have been in recovery now for I would say a couple of years now.
The trust issue, to be honest I don’t ever think if will come back fully, there will always be a little bit of mistrust there, and I think that is normal, however to become comfortable again, that is just going to take time, over time you will just relax more and more, and it will become easier, you won’t worry every time he goes out or is late home. Although he has to be able to help that along, it’s his actions which will go the furthest for putting you at ease, and this is why it’s going to take time, because this can only happen overtime. As far as the email from the ow, I got one of those, telling me that my H felt obligated to marry me, that he never really wanted to, and I was devastated, but when I though about it I knew that was crap, I remember when we got married what we felt was real, and he isn’t a good enough actor to pretend for 15yrs, so they spew garbage and venom, and that’s all it is, also remember that the H will tell them things to make the affair easier, but that doesn’t mean its true. So all I can say to you is focus on you, you can’t control what he does; you know what the outcome will be if he makes certain choices and you know you will be ok!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
