I pride myself on keeping up with current events. That's why I subscribe to Us Weekly, the classy celebrity news rag.
This week's issue has a story about Kendra and her sex tape nightmare. As I was flipping through, I came to a page titled, "Hank Speaks!" I wanted to know if Kendra's husband had anything to say, and I didn't event get past the first paragraph. Here's what it says, exactly as it appears in the magazine.
"Kendra's husband tells Us how he really feels about the tape
On the rocks? Hardly. 'You don't just rent a husband or wife for the good times,' Kendra's hubby, Philadelphia Eagles wide receiver Hank Baskett, tells Us. 'It's for better or worse.' In other words, he's proudly standing by his wife through all the sex-tape drama."
If I didn't have so much restraint, then I'd send this to H so that he could see it, too!
I have a new-found respect for the man who married a former Playboy mansion resident.
If I didn't have so much restraint, then I'd send this to H so that he could see it, too!
Why not? Gives a reason to contact. Unless the distance has helped the R so far, maybe it is time to consider another or different 180. Add on your own line like you did for us about a notch of respect for someone you'd previously dismiss as a flake.
If I didn't have so much restraint, then I'd send this to H so that he could see it, too!
Why not? Gives a reason to contact. Unless the distance has helped the R so far, maybe it is time to consider another or different 180. Add on your own line like you did for us about a notch of respect for someone you'd previously dismiss as a flake.
If I thought he wouldn't react defensively, then I would. Unfortunately, I don't think he's ready to see something like this. No matter how I framed it, I think he would launch a rebuttal or just act defensive and angry.
I've gone dark on H for the past couple weeks, only responding to direct questions he asks me through texts. I decided to go dark for a bit after a conversation with black best friend.
She and her long-term boyfriend (we're talking 7 or 8 years) have parted ways at her choosing. After all my reading, her comments (about their relationship before it ended) reminded me of a WAS. Since their parting, he has actively and persistently pursued her, and it's been driving her crazy.
During dinner a few nights ago, she was talking about how she hadn't heard from him in several days, and she'd been thinking about old times, remembering him more fondly than she had in some time, and almost missing him. Then he called. Her words were, "I was just about to miss him, and then he blew it." Poor guy. He went dark but didn't stay dark.
She went on to say, "If he doesn't stop calling or trying to see me, then I may just have to tell him that I don't even want to be friends with him."
Though I haven't been in hot pursuit of H or attempting any excessive contact, this really spoke to me. It encouraged me to cut off all contact, at least for a while.
It's also been relatively good for my mental and emotional health to forgo contact with H. It's better to have no contact than to try to make contact with him and be ignored.
Recent Events, Pseudo-Accomplishments, and Ways To Have Fun:
*do yard work (does not fall in the "Ways To Have Fun" category) *spend time with acquaintances who run an exotic animal rescue sanctuary; enjoy quality moments with kinkajou, binturong, Australian cockatoo, Egyptian fruit bat, prairie dog, Burmese python, fennec fox (pictures proudly displayed on the alt) *take two coworkers/friends to laughter yoga and allow them to enjoy the sheer foolishness of it all; risk male friend never speaking to me again *purchase two new fish for newly created aquatic environment *hang towel hook and curtain rod ALL BY MYSELF; fortunately had tub of spackle on hand to patch seven or so extra holes I drilled (may outsource hanging of two new towel racks as I am almost out of spackle) *anger father by suggesting that I paint my kitchen cabinets (such a ridiculous suggestion on my part evidently warranted the angry blue-eyed gaze and vertical eyebrows I received) *begin to add, arrange, and/or rearrange lovely decorative accents (have been acquiring things for several months--or a few years, in a couple cases--and now have time to find best places for them): pieces of art from local artists plus a few reproduction pieces; adorable tabletop wrought iron chairs; planter filled with moss spheres; dragon nightlight (excellent purchase, as I was born in the year of the dragon--check out www.shopwildthings.com for crazy items, including nightlight); hanging candle holders for outdoor garden; vintage keys (set of 7) to hang on wall; cute hand towels that match duvet *request free DVD from Sleep Number Bed people and consider doing in-home 30-day trial; figure out a way to pay to get to keep magic bed once it gets here *sunbathe on back deck; make sunbathing more comfortable by taking box fan and spray bottle of water outside, too
And now, for the greatest purchase I've made recently----
Sh*t My Dad Says by Justin Halpern
Pure hilarity. I've laughed myself silly. The title spoke to me (for obvious reasons), and it has not disappointed me. Check it out.
Sh*t my dad says is hilarious! I follow that guy on twitter.
Good on you for motivating & making your home yours. And I'm totally with ya on the hanging of $hit by yourself. I bought a bunch of shelves & a level today for just that; in the past, H hung the shelves & what-not.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
Sh*t my dad says is hilarious! I follow that guy on twitter.
That will be the next thing I do. This book is soooooooo funny. I can completely identify with way too much of it.
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Good on you for motivating & making your home yours. And I'm totally with ya on the hanging of $hit by yourself. I bought a bunch of shelves & a level today for just that; in the past, H hung the shelves & what-not.
Thank you! I have enjoyed doing this and working on things. It also is nice to change the way things look at my house. I am moving beyond it looking like I'm living in my late mother's surroundings. The changes have also helped eliminate reminders of the way it looked before H left. I don't replay the terrible conversations as I look at something and think, "He was sitting there when he said ______, and I was looking here when he said _______." Not sure if that sounds crazy, but the constant reminders are killers.
So you're going to hang things, too, huh? I hope you're better at it than I! If you're not, then make sure you have a tub of spackle and some sandpaper on hand. I really may have my kind and helpful next-door neighbor/handyman hang the towel racks. I'm going for precision here, and I have accepted my hanging/drilling skill level (and the limitations of my skills).
I've been reading a very good book that I hope will help me in the long run. It's called The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide To Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner. I've had it for a while but am finally able to devote some time to it.
I have anger at H that comes and goes, but it often flares back up just when I thought it was corralled. I've been feeling angry lately, and I don't like letting these feelings fester.
I also feel kind of down right now because I saw my sister-in-law today and learned that the family is taking a beach vacation, beginning tomorrow. Father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, his wife (SIL), their toddler daughter, MIL's niece, and H. I don't know why this bothers me. I don't know if it's that I feel left out of something or that in the time H and I have been married, there was NEVER a family vacation like this. I don't like the way I feel right now, and I certainly don't want to slip into self-pity.
I'm going to read some more of my anger book and maybe do some journaling to decompress. It would probably also make me feel better to read some of my Sh*t My Dad Says book or even some of my newest book from the Self-Hurt Series titled How To Get Into Debt (a satire, obviously). It would help to get some of my feelings out on paper and then read something silly before bedtime.
I also feel that it would be to my great advantage to eat a Snickers ice cream bar.
