I've been following your posts mainly because your situation is similar to mine. XH and I are both fairly recently retired AF (me E-8, XH E-7). XH was just like your ex--everything was about him, what he wanted and what made him happy. Finally, I decided I deserved better, so I left.
Believe me, leaving was one of the hardest things I ever had to do because I loved him, but I am glad now that I did it (I moved 1,600 miles away). I don't know if it was the military in me, but I always knew I was going to be OK no matter what. It took a few months, but I got to the point where I didn't think about him all the time and was actually happy being by myself. Then I met this guy, and guess what, he’s the total opposite of my ex! I’m glad I didn’t settle for what I had before, because I am now in the kind of relationship I’ve always wanted.
I can understand that you’re lonely, but it will get easier especially after you and your daughter move. Enjoy your single status for now and don’t rush into another relationship. And don’t look for her, let her find you! I’m sure a nice guy like you will meet someone who will treat you how you deserve to be treated soon enough!
Oh yeah, I wouldn’t bother telling your XW to just e-mail and stop calling—don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing that you’re still hurting. Instead, show her that you’ve moved on and you’re doing OK. And you know what, you are doing OK and will continue to be OK. Good luck on the move and belated congratulations on making Senior.
