H moved in w/ OW. Wants month to fig things out.

[Allen A]

If you want my advice Seanna I would reccomend CHANGING your phone number and email accounts so he CAN'T contact you

You raelly need to read that book carefully

[seanna]

i'll read it again. I did read it twice. but now the kids are asleep, I'll read it again.

[Allen A]

My next question... keeping the text messages and email, but not reading them...

How do you think after a week of those do you think the OW would react if a friend of yours revealed them to OW?

[seanna]

He doesn't email, and i will change the cell number. I do need the advice. This is all so new to me and I don't want to mess up.

[seanna]

I was thinking about doing that. I was a step ahead of you:)

[seanna]

I think that she would be upset of course but, she's a wimp. She's an ex GF from '92 and has waited around for him this long. I don't think a couple texts would scare her off. It'd piss H off though if I showed her, and would that just make them closer? You know cause they'll have a big fight, then he'll have to reassure her, and she'll cave cause she completely spineless.

[seanna]

Back story. When I met my husband in '92 he was dating a few people. The OW being one of them.

He broke it off because he tired of her and she and he still remained friends (talking every 6 months or so.) We got married in '95. I would see her number come up every once in a while on his pager (before cell phones) and he would say that she just called to say hi.

Well, years passed (about 8) and I had my first son, apparently she was still incontact with my H I didn't know. Then after my second son was 2, I guess the affair started from what I understand.

He said it was because he didn't get enough attention from me as I was dealing with 2 kids in diapers at the same time etc. I really had no idea that the affair was going on until last year in june when I found the number on the cell phone bill numerous times. I confronted him, and he confessed.and One year later here we are.......

[Allen A]

She can't be that much of a wimp if she's willing to violate someone's marriage who has two kids and allow him to abandon you.. tha'ts not a wimp, that's a predator my dear... a marital predator... she's just subtle about it...

[seanna]

I know. What can I do about that?

[Allen A]

Has no one in your family confronted this woman and told her to stop doing damage to your marraige? NO ONE is speaking up at all against a "wimp?"

I find this hard to believe...