2 x 4's goals timeframe

[knightinneed]

1. i have kids 24/7. only when i work do i not, as soon as done work im picking them up, getting home, dinner ect. i take care of house pets everything

he has NEVER done that with both kids. his mother cooks, cleans, does his laundry ect. for him. if i'm at work and he's at home with his mother he will just sleep if he wants to while the kids are there.[u][/u]

Wow Jstar, this sounds like I did when I was like 25 and had 2 kids with my ex and mother of my other daughter 7. He obviously is spoiled and a little selfish on this. I agree and totally understand your anger, it is really hard to work take care of kids the whole 9 yards on your own.

I was immature like that at one point I admit. But when my X and I were all together with the kids it seemed as if it was ok. Some guys get into the habit of viewing wife/kids as a package deal and lean on the wife as main caregiver. Perhaps it was that way as he was growing up so he thinks nothing of it.

It takes a mature man to recognize that quality fatherly time is as important as Mom Dad Family time. He obviously needs to understand your concerns as a tired Mom who needs a break on this. Ask him nicely in some way to watch them for a day, while you take a rest. Maybe even offer him something to get him to do it, perhaps trade a favor or you do it 1 day he do it 1 day take turns. He really needs to know how big of a deal this is for a woman.

Believe I understand, been there before. He will get it and soon enough, he'll grow out of this mentality hopefully.
The older they get the easier they are to watch : )