Not sad at all, Mila. I posted a positive before reading this, so we must be on the same wavelength.
I'm too nice, I would reply to H that I want to see him and meet, because I'd want to build the friendship and build the R again. However, I know many will disagree with that and I'm no expert, so, let's examine this more closely, shall we?
The fact that he told you he didn't want to meet, and then explained his "feel sorry for me" reason why... that says something. What does it say to you, the woman who knows him best?
Still, I'm a rescuer, and I'd want to "kiss it and make it all better" and I'd want to be building on those feelings.
Is there a way to do both?
What happens when you say "I'm not the one that set us on this path. I'm willing to work on the M when you are ready to act as an appropriate husband."
Does he still know this? If so, no reason to reiterate.
