Sorry Sandi, I don't agree.. they are BOTH a problem...
In my opinion in most affairs the WS bears 10% or less of the responsability... they are very OFTEN VULNERABLE... their marriage and household is falling apart and they are a mess...
Along comes some creep to take advantage of that... Of course, he thinks he's a big hero... But his idea of heroism isn't sending a vulnerable woman to her friends and famliy for the safe support she needs, its mounting her in the back of his van...
They are BOTH a problem... all it takes is ONE of them to say NO and walk away and it's over...
It's HARDER for the LBS because THEY are ADDICTED... the OM is NOT addicted... he's just a sleazeball...
And to be perfectly honest, if I WAS hitting on someone's wife and her HUSBAND showed up at my workplace with some friends of his.. I would BACK OFF pretty quick...
Most men uless they ARE complete sleazeballs WILL back off of a man's wife if the man confronts the other man face to face (respect) and intimidating him (just a guy thing) into backing off...
Its a very primal event and most men will pick up on it and back off... UNLESS they are sleazeballs...
Yes, I can understand some men just end up in this situation and they aren't creeps, just misinformed and uneducated.. THOSE guys will probably back off if the husband shows up at the workplace...
This is more a test of OM's character than anything...
