I was in denial about my own "hunches", attributing it to unreasonable "jealousy". But it surfaced involuntarily sometimes in dreams (nightmares) and now I have living proof my hunches (or fears) had a real basis. So you do have to be looking over your shoulder and there's got to be checks and balances given all that you went thru'. I think jealously is when you want to possess something that's really not yours to have, but I think your spouse's fidelity is rightfully your concern. It is indeed disgusting and frightening to sense your spouse is unfaithful. And yes he revealed some serious hidden character traits/flaws which he must recognize and grow out of. When I said 'indirectly' I really meant in a way that would not cause you or him to loose your composure by getting into a heated argument.
