She just told me that she was out. She wanted to let me know that before I went to my C appointment tonight. She said it wasn't because of anything I've done in the past, but because of what I've done snce I've been home.
I have done nothing to warrant this since I've been home except for what happened the other day. If she's going to base it off of one incident, then she wasn't really in it to begin with.
It's really sad that this is the course she's decided to take, but she obviously won't know the true answer until she does it. i won't play this like a game, so if she want's to press forwardthen we'll do it for real.
We were supposed to get together to discuss whether or not we were going to proceed or try to fix things still. I guess I now have my answer.
Our next conversation will be about how we're going to divide our assets, and start the next step in the D process. It appears as though this M will not be DB, but is on the way out.
I said it before, just because you couldn't find evidence of another man doesn't mean he doesn't exist, even if it's just an emotional affair right now where she may just be talking to him every now & then.
Your wife sounds like someone who wants to be with someone else and definitely doesn't want to be with you.
But you... you keep fighting for this marriage, telling her it's not what you want and you want to keep your family together and work on the marriage and the relationship and she keeps telling you she doesn't want any of this but you keep telling her it's what you want so you keep disagreeing with her feelings and she keeps pushing you further away.
I would stop communicating with her altogether unless she contacts you and I would also stop this house swapping nonsense if you guys are still doing that.
If she really wants to go, give her what she wants. If you guys split up and divorce, you won't be house swapping, let her have what she wants and let her start getting used to the details of the entire process.
She's calling all of the shots right now, when you do you finally let her go and start enjoying your life. If she wants the divorce, let her file for the divorce. If she gets a lawyer, you get one too and you don't do anything like splitting up assets and swapping homes, etc. until all the paperwork is filed and tells each of you what you are responsible for.
Let her go, she really wants to go and you keep fighting it, just let her go.
