It is counter intuitive but you must take the focus off your H and put it on you and your S. I know how hard this is to do when your world centered around your family.
What interests, hobbies, etc. did you leave behind when you became a wife and mom? What are the things you always wanted to try but didn't have the time? Sometimes making a list helps. Maybe you could think about joining a group with the same interests?
Lori, this is your time. Time to find out what you want. Time to work as Lost said, on being the best you.
Keep posting. We're all here to support each other.
