I am a thinker too! It does take a while to feel better but I think it can also depend on how long you had to deal with stuff before the divorce. Next week it will be 4 years since the bomb and next month 2 years since the divorce. You won't start feeling better over night but you will.
Just think of what you want for you in your life and go for it. other people may come and co but YOU are the one constant.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory