Originally Posted By: Allen A
I should elaborate on confront her


1. Prepare a script (always be prepared with a script)
2. Research her credentials and the constraints of her license
3. Record the conversation with a hidden device in your jacket or purse
4. Invite her to work WITH you to help this man rather than working in secret and contaminating your marriage

What she's doing now is in my opinion a violation of professional ethics in treating a man using IC knowing he's having an affair...

If YOU have a good FT you can have her refer THAT one...



1 and 2 - working on that.
3.. would never have thought of, but have one available to me, so yes I'll use it.
4. Definitely, and I do have a FT in mind.. haven't made it to an appt yet because he's the one who's only available on Thursdays, and I don't have insurance, so I'm talking to him about a payment plan - he is very family oriented and would prefer divorce to be the absolute last resort, even in cases of affairs. - And H knows I'm making an appointment for myself as soon as possible.


Also - forgot to mention H is aware of me being involved with an online support community... saw it on my screen a few days ago when I thought the screen had locked and it hadn't (we each have our own laptops, btw)...Don't think he's found this thread yet as I have a feeling he'd confront me on many of the things I've talked about here. And regardless, if he does, I HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE. Everything I talk about on here is in an effort to save my marriage, nothing more, nothing less... so I'm not going anywhere. wink Just wanted to mention that in case something happens in the future that this will have a bearing on.

Last edited by elvencat; 06/16/10 08:14 PM.
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