One other thing my counselor mentioned...'crazymakers', as she calls people like this, want you to feel guilty and to take blame. For example when you said you were worried that his recent interactions with you were attempts to talk about reconciling and somehow your responses messed that up?
Maybe that is what he wants, for you to think you screwed things up. Then he gets to shift the guilt to you and go on his merry way...if that sounds bad, sorry, just an observation...
