Grit, Thanks. I have been reading what you posted over and over again since yesterday. I "know" the things you say are true and I understand them, I think that on my journey I am moving towards "wanting" them. Specifically, wanting for her to find her way even if that way is without me. This is where my work lies.
What you wrote above is one of the few things my W has said that I do believe. She says it a little differently. My W says, "She does not know what she wants right now". I think she vacilates between wanting me or the M or the kids and wanting her freedom.
M&H, Tipper called it on her last post on my thread, about the MLCer cycling and that is exactly what my W is doing. And yes it does suck, I was pretty much on a high but the surprising thing for me was that I did not plumet to some new low. I guess knowledge is power, I knew this was normal so when it happened, it was not unexpected.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
