Sorry I DO know what you mean...just not a big fan of the word. Its a pretty word like...unicorn...fairy...
Not really sure a soul mate would have an affair though...and part of the reason I am not a fan of the word. Although if you want to go with the HIGHER level meaning of the word...and that our flesh is weak and such then soul mate works just fine.
please check out the resources that Cat pointed out, determine for yourself if your husband fits into an MLC...
IGNORE the timeline you might come across, and while the STAGES are nice they will NOT HELP you if you think they flow in an ordered 1,2,3,4,5,6 way. They do not...and people can obsess over the stages as though they might give them some insight as to how long the MLC might last.
IF you husband is in MLC then you need to figure out how to outlast it. Is your marriage worth it? To you and your son? Are you a fighter? Are you stubborn? Did your vows mean anything to you, including , in sickness and in health?
If he is your soulmate then I expect you to do your best.
DBing is counerinuitive to everything you think will wokr...like begging and pleading and demanding...that shite doesn't fly. It is a great way to push him away.
Oh yeah...DO NOT ATTACK the OW...either verbally or (stupidly) physically...you will lose,he will defend HER you will draw them closer together.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
