I started standing for my marriage and all that entailed
then
I started getting some help and looking at all the things I needed to improve on and work on and get back to
so I started working and learning and doing and my stance changed from standing for my marriage to standing for me who I was who I was meant to be
part of who I am is someone who believes in the truth and commitment and love and family
so
I was standing for me which meant standing for marriage and commitment (not just mine)
then I found out that my ex is a sociopath I couldn't stand for a marriage with someone who was hurting my children, myself, themselves and who was NEVER going to get better
so
I kept standing for myself my family marriage commitment
but I let go of my ex and all that he had said he was but wasn't
i met someone else someone amazing and wonderful, generous and protective, strong and gentle, intelligent and funny
he knew and knows who he is and I know who I am
I never stopped standing
I just started standing for me what was good for me important for me was in keeping with who I was and am at my core!!!
standing isn't to win your spouse back standing is who you are at your core
there are many people who spout standing and have wicked nicknames for their exes, or who get their "feel goods" from outside instead of in
there are people who stand forever...not in the hopes of winning someone back but because of the person they are
there are people that don't even get out of the chair they flash into a new relationship like changing socks
statistics don't matter when you are being true to who you are 1% or 100%...shouldn't matter you aren't who you are for results
