Good points Geronimo. Writing out your thoughts is a good way of organizing and clarifying what you want to say. As far as not treating it as a debate, that is perfect for my friend because he tends to go in with a win-lose perspective, which is unhelpful. We'll see how it goes, they've got MC on the agenda for the short future. My advice was to go for MC and say "we need someone to help us to approach our issues in different ways" rather than looking for the MCer to side with one or the other. His W is looking for someone to beat some sense into his head, her sense of course. He finds it difficult to communicate with her because she starts R talks by telling him everything that's wrong with him, so he turns off or looks for ways to defend himself. Not a good formula for communication.
