He's telling friends he thinks we'll reunite

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marie,

i just did a quick read of the last exchange between you and Allen and wanted to offer my two cents (or maybe one cent :-)).

MWD being lovingly detached is good and works when the problems in the marriage are less complicated than infidelity. It is helpful in infidelity as a plan a. the wayward spouse has the picture of you being loving and not affected by their moods. However, eventually you have to cut them off or they will literally suck the life out of you and mess with your self esteem. The best thing I did that helped me was to shut my husband out for two weeks after a bad event where the OW called me. For me I was mortified but not communicating with my husband made him realize what it would truly be like without me in his life...PERIOD.

It doesn't feel natural and I fought it all the way (Ask Allen or read my threads) but now that husband and I are reconciling and he we have been communicating I found out that my shutting him out for two weeks had a huge impact on him plus me moving out of our home with our child. OH and following the the other rules of DB such as getting a life (husband didn't know this is what i was doing but he noticed me being happy while he was living a life of stress).